Have you set your goals for making 2023 your best year yet? I’m not talking about your standard New Year’s resolutions, which usually only last a few days. I’m talking about your life’s desires for this year – things that, once accomplished, will make a big difference for you.
Have you given up setting big goals like that because you’ve done it all before and it never worked? The reason why many goals remain unattained is that you have to decide consciously which goals to strive for and, at the same time, rely on your unconscious mind – where all your memories, beliefs and emotions come from – to get you there.
There are a couple of reasons for this: first, your conscious mind can only pay attention to so many things at the same time, which means that very soon after you determined which dream you wanted to make reality, you have to hand it over to your unconscious mind for safekeeping and further processing. It wouldn’t do any good to keep staring at your goal all day long because you’d miss major turns along the way and could end up where don’t want to go. Life wouldn’t be much fun if all you did was focus on the future and the steps needed to get there. Love, happiness and enjoyment are all in the present, and who wants to experience life without these, even if all other goals are achieved?
Only your unconscious has the ability to act in place of your conscious self and keep an eye on things while you’re not looking. This is the second reason why goals remain elusive: if your unconscious doesn’t support what you consciously desire, you’re on a losing wicket. No way will you get the help you need to keep going when obstacles appear in your path and when you have some growing to do. After all, change is the most important part of moving towards your goals. If you don’t need to change as a person – in your behaviours and attitudes – you would have, and be, everything you wanted right now. First you have to become the person who has or is whatever you desire.
Gandhi said: “Be the change you want to see in the world.” This applies to your personal life as much as it does for nations. Stories abound of instant millionaires who squandered their fortunes within months and ended up more miserable than before, simply because they were handed something they were not ready for. This process of getting ready for your goals can only happen in your unconscious, where all learning and change takes place.